Surviving Easter Holiday with your Autistic Child

by Kim Goff

Easter is right around the corner and another holiday party is on the horizon. Most people look forward to these gatherings; however, for parents of autistic children, this can cause massive anxiety. Autistic children are very sensitive to external stimuli and can be hard to handle in unfamiliar surroundings. Therefore, holiday parties can be extremely challenging for autistic children and their families.

If possible, try to host the party at your home, since this is where your child feels most relaxed. It is also more feasible to dress your child in casual attire since they will be at home. Over-dressing and uncomfortable clothes can be extremely irritating to the autistic child and cause them to have a “melt-down”. If your child starts to become irritated as guests are coming into their “territory”, try the following:

* Time Out. Let your child have a “time out” from it all and go to their bedroom or favorite room of the house. Some quiet time can help them relax and refocus.
* Let them have “their” fun. Let your child, privately, or with adult supervision in another room, watch their favorite movie or play on the computer. Their favorite activity can help calm them down and help them return to the party in a more “favorable mood”. Sometimes they can enjoy their favorite activity around other people. For example, my son is obsessed with ice cubes, therefore, when we have pool parties we get him his own cooler of ice to play in. He stays outside with everyone and he is content and happy!

If it is not possible to host the Easter party at your house, here are a couple of tips for going to someone else’s house:

* Prepare guests. Before the party, try to speak with anyone who may not be aware of your child's condition or understand. Politely explain why your child may do things that are considered “odd” and try to show them how to interact with your child. Explain to them that they need to give your child a little time when coming into contact with a large group of people and to not to take anything personally if your child doesn't show any interest in socializing.
* Take the essentials. Besides essentials, such as medications, special food, etc., take along comfort items so your child feels more secure. Take some favorite toys or a blanket; this will help calm down an otherwise anxious child.
* Lower your expectations. To be realistic, no matter how much you prepare, your “Easter party” experience may not run as smoothly as you prefer. If you're unrealistic about the party, you'll probably be disappointed. Do the best you can to make the experience as smooth as possible, but realize there will be some challenges.

Most importantly, remember that this is your family's Easter party. Do not allow others to make you feel guilty for setting up the tools and/or boundaries that your family needs to be able to enjoy the holiday to its fullest. This is easier said than done, I know, since I am the parent of an autistic child. However, I have come to realize that my child's happiness is most important to me, and I will do what is necessary to ensure that. A little preparation can go a long way and help create positive Easter memories for you, your family and your autistic child. Happy Easter!

Source: http://www.examiner.com/x-3971-Phila...Autistic-Child

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